JD: It’s more common for Boys to give their Sir their collar back than it is for Pups to give it back to their Handler, I believe. The Sub losing his/her collar when a relationship ends is a tradition in leather culture because it signified ownership. Many Pups though, are neither Dom nor Sub and Pups get their collars in many different ways, so I don’t think there’s a universal. I can tell you from experience losing my name and my collar in a break up devastated me. To the point that when I collared my own Pup, I made a point of telling him the collar and name were gifts, meaning that if we ever break up, they are his property, not mine. He’s still very Sub though. For instance, he’ll present me with his collar and patiently and wait until I put it on him and will never put it on himself. In fact he’s the one who just recently started talking about wanting a permanent locking collar.