What is an Alpha? – A Talk on MentorshipAugust 10, 2017
What is an Alpha? – A Talk on Mentorship
You hear the term thrown around a multitude of ways to describe a puppy who presents themselves as such in that particular role. But what exactly does it mean to be an Alpha? Is there a set criteria or syllabus you have to follow to dawn the title of Alpha? Does a puppy have to physically fit a certain mold?
The answer is no.
Let’s focus not on the perceptions of what an Alpha is, but rather the ideology behind its role in the form of mentorship.
Mentorship is a pivotal aspect of the Alpha role, but one that isn’t always celebrated in the forefront and sometimes even overlooked all together.
The reason more often than not, sociologically, an Alpha is perceived as a dominant puppy in life and in the bedroom who can bark a command and be respected and obeyed without question. In some cases, the Alpha is also visualized as one of a larger stature and visible physical strength. This emblematized representation of an Alpha echoes strongly, quelling the more pertinent aspects of the role.
When speaking in the form of mentorship, an Alpha has a responsibility to safeguard the safe space and well-being of others. Being a positive role model is quintessential, especially mentoring as Alpha of a pack, because you are aiding in each pack mates’ developmental growth in and outside of pup play. An Alpha needs to understand that they are leading by example and providing negative reinforcement or any abusive behaviorism can vastly stunt another’s growth and/or cause psychological harm. As a mentor, be action oriented, be a resource, lend a paw and ear, and revel in the love and support exudes back to you.
An Alpha is NOT defined by gender identity, sexual orientation, race, color, weight, stature, if dominant or submissive, etc… It’s possible you can come across someone telling you that you are doing “Alpha” wrong because of their own preconceived notions, self-glorifying ideologies, or they are an Alpha who does things differently than yourself. Just like no two snowflakes are identical, so that of an Alpha as well.
If you identify as an Alpha or coming into the role, celebrate not in what society or others tell you to be or look like, but what it means to you personally. Be true to oneself, do you, be that mentor to your pack, others and/or the community, and overall have fun!
“One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination.” — John C. Maxwell