Addressing ShamingApril 25, 2017
Shame! Shame! Shame! Shame!
I’m not directing this at anyone in particular but if you think I am, maybe there is some basis to it! Maybe you need to look at what you are doing to others and how you would react if it was done to you!
Over the last several weeks, I have personally witnessed the following int he community –
Body Shaming – I have seen this go both ways slim or fluffy – The ones doing it, I know have taken issues in the past with others doing it to them, yet they are quick to do it to others. No one is perfect so don’t act like you are!
Kink Shaming – Oh boy! I have seen some real wild examples of this. Someone that has a wide range of kinks that may not be for everyone, calling out and putting down someone else because of their kink. How would you feel if someone started lecturing you about your kinks? If you don’t like something fine, it takes all kinds to make this world go round. If something makes you happy, do it! It may not be something you would do in public but that doesn’t mean you can’t like it.
Age Shaming – We have to be open to learn from each other, that doesn’t mean you have to sleep with each other. Just because someone isn’t your preferred age range (younger or older) doesn’t mean you can belittle them because of it
Gender Shaming – What does it matter how they identify? I see those that deliberately use wrong pronouns or make off comments about how they can’t do this or that because of how they identify
Orientation Shaming – What does it matter what gender someone likes to sleep with? Or are you just jealous because it isn’t with you?
Status Shaming – It’s always good to be upfront when needed about your status, but I have seen so many that deliberately will cut someone down or call them dirty because they are HIV+ So what?
Gear Shaming – Another one that goes both ways! I have seem some looked down upon because their gear isn’t the latest or greatest. I have also seen someone trash someone because the other person did have new gear. What they didn’t know is that the person had saved for 2 years to get it. Just have fun. If you are being unkind to others because you are jealous, hmmmmmmm
Religion or Political Beliefs Shaming – Religion and political views are like a penis. It’s fine to have one and it’s fine to be proud of it, but please don’t whip it out in public and start waving it around. It’s fine to share what you think but don’t force it down someone’s throat. You have a deep belief in religion and God, great, many have alternative belief systems, Just be mindful of how forcefully you share your views. If you have a dissenting political view, fine, don’t get all pissy if you are asked to provide proof. Believe what you believe and live your life how you want it lived, don’t force that on others! We all walk our own paths. Something may not affect you but may drastically affect someone else.
I hate to have to say this again but…… THE COMMUNITY’S BIGGEST ENEMY are some in the community that the only happy when they are making someone feel worse than they do about themselves!