Pup BarksMicroblogging of Pup Play Inspiration
Written By: Handler Blaise
“…I highly recommend that you take the time to get to know the other person you want to be in a dynamic with…”
Dynamic, it’s a goal that a lot of handlers and puppies look forwards towards.
However, haste makes waste. It’s extremely important that both handlers, as well as puppies, must take in consideration who we want to be in a dynamic with…
Just because a puppy comes up to a handler, stating they want to be in a dynamic doesn’t mean you should jump on it immediately. The same goes for puppies when a Handler randomly approaches them.
No one person is able to fit everyone’s needs. We all have our interest and we all have our dislikes. We all have our own specific kinks that we enjoy and some that we don’t care for. As such, I highly recommend that you take the time to get to know the other person you want to be in a dynamic with and sit them down. Discuss the things you’re into, both outside of the bedroom (especially for those that are wanting a platonic relationship) as well as those within it.
Now this does not mean that if you and the other party aren’t into the same things that you cannot be in a dynamic. In fact I encourage those that may be on the fence about certain kinks or want to try certain kinks to reach out to puppies or handlers that are into them. I know I’ve learned a lot of great new things from my puppies and the majority of the things I expand it on in my journey through has been taught to me by my subs.
Though at the end of it all make sure that the person that you want to be in a dynamic wave at least matches you on a personal level so that way you can communicate and grow in the relationship.
Picking The Right Clothing For Puppy Play
Written By: Whiteout
Puppies have a diverse range of activities to choose from! Whether it’s a rough mosh, playing catch, or snuggling up closely with someone they love. It’s important to pick the right type of clothing to get the most enjoyment out of your pup experience. While you can certainly go completely naked or wear the bare minimum with only a jock, some puppies like to complete their look with a full outfit. With the large diversity in fetish clothing options, it’s important to know what to look for when building your own fetish wardrobe. For more information about fetish clothing, check out my YouTube page at: youtube.com/whiteoutrubber
Most Recommended – Spandex / Zentai
Spandex truly is the best combination of strength and flexibility when it comes to fetish clothing for puppy play. It’s easy to put on, very cheap to purchase, and will hold up to all the rough play a puppy could ever want. Whenever I participate in a puppy event or gear up for private fun, 90% of the time I’ll choose spandex. This material is also the easiest to clean, with most suits being machine washable. That’s important since puppies tend to build up quite a bit of sweat during play. When the clothing does rip after countless play sessions, it is easy to repair with some basic sewing skills.
Spandex has several different designs to choose from. I personally am a fan of full coverage, so I chose full body suits. These full suits are very similar to skin tight rubber catsuits and are called “zentai suits”. I also frequently see puppies romping in wrestling singlets, which are also made from spandex. These allow for coverage of the body while keeping the arms and knees exposed. This is more of a personal preference. However, wrestling singlets are more forgiving to larger body types than a full coverage zentai.
Leather is another great material for puppy play! It’s easily the strongest material listed and will hold up for many years. However, keep in mind that many moshes have strict rules when it comes to metal accessories on gear. I have seen pups forced to take off their leather gear because it contained spikes or studs that could potentially harm another puppy. I rarely see puppies in full le
ather outfits during play. This is because it is possible to scuff and scratch, a risk most people wouldn’t want to take on a $500 pair of pants.
Most commonly seen are leather harness and collars, which leather is the most suited material for. I personally will combine a leather harness and a zentai and have achieved some great results with both style and functionality. Leather is also a fantastic choice for puppy accessories. I personally own a pair of leather fist mitts which have survived countless moshes! Leather puppy hoods have also been a popular choice for years and I know pups still using their original Mr. S hood after over a decade.
Neoprene is most commonly used for puppy hoods and accessories. Many manufacturers will also produce neoprene pants, shirts, and full body catsuits. While hoods and accessories are certainly fine for normal puppy use, I personally have seen horror stories from neoprene clothing used during puppy play. I recall seeing a pup at IML two years ago who had a pair of beautiful neoprene pants which were worn during the woof camp puppy mosh. After an hour of participating in the romp, the once pristine pants were absolutely destroyed with several cuts and small chunks of the neoprene foam falling off. Neoprene is very sensitive to cuts and scratches, especially if you are constantly on your knees. Even with knee pads, it is very easy to create perm
anent creases from regular puppy play.
That being said, there are still many options available where neoprene can be safely used in rougher situations. Instead of full pants and shirts, it is most recommended to purchase neoprene with exposed knees and elbows. These can be neoprene tank tops, shorts, or surf suits. This means the high stress areas will be avoided entirely when engaging in rough play.
Latex / Rubber
Latex and rubber clothing is very sensitive to tears and rips! While it’s perfectly fine if you’re simply posing for pictures. The risk of a blowout or rip is always possible when engaging in play. Rubber is best used for puppy accessories such as hoods and mitts. During the few times I have worn rubber for puppy fun, I was constantly taken out of the headspace to check and make sure nothing was ripping. At every major puppy mosh, I almost always find a latex pup scurrying away to get out of a ripped suit. If you do still wish to primarily be a latex pup make sure to invest in a thick rubber suit. Rubber thicknesses under .60mm should not be used and I have seen some puppies use .80mm suits for play.
In addition, knee pads are a must! Any high friction or high stress areas should be monitored regularly for pinhole tears which can rapidly develop into a massive blowout. These areas include the armpits, knees, and butt. Any areas around zippers should also be inspected regularly. When the rubber stretches, the zipper will remain rigid and cause increased stress around the glued areas. If any small rips are found, immediately stop wearing the gear and repair it before engaging in any further play.
This is turning into the worlds largest and most in depth research project about pup play, Last time we did this in 2017 we had over 1,700 respondents and by streamlining the process from then, we should have even more in 2019! There are many reasons we are conducting this large scale research project but here is a comprehensive list of what our objectives are:
- To help inspire future research in the academic community about the pup play community.
- To help inform workshop creators to help provide resources and topics that are the most helpful in the community.
- To create the first major comprehensive quantitative research series to be publicly viewable by the entire community.
- To see what topics are popular amongst the community to steer the direction of the pupplay.info resource and advice creation.
- To have quantitative facts to compare to 2017 results to begin seeing statistically significant trends in community to help community groups know what the greater picture looks like than what they only see in person.
We will be releasing the results as an academic paper and then later combined in with future articles and other projects planned. Raw data that could be traced back to an individual will not be released, and what will be released, will be designed so no specific individual can be traced.
We did this same system last time to great success, you can see the free eBook at this link
Privacy & Security
We will NOT be making the raw data publicly available, this is to ensure the privacy of participants and no data released will be capable of being traced back to specific individuals. We DO NOT collect usernames, email addresses or account information. Your privacy is our top priority, which is why every individual result will stay anonymous
We have upgraded not only the pupplay.info website but have also made sure the form system we use has SSL certification. This is a form of encryption that’s end-to-end in a nutshell, making sure no one is listening in or stealing information. To make sure that this encryption is used, make sure the urls begin with https:// if your browser is up to date, it will tell you if the page your looking at is secure by saying “secure” or showing a padlock icon depending on your OS.
Professional Data Miners have volunteered to help us sift through the data to give meaningful statistical results and will be under legally bound Non-Disclosure Agreements and will not be allowed to share information outside of the final published report that will be publicly available to all.
We did this same strategy last time in 2017 and was successful, we had no leaks in privacy and kept all our promises to the project, this is what were striving for again in 2019
Developed by the Community
If you have an idea or some feedback, don’t hesitate to ask us. If it is as unbiased as possible, there is a good chance it will go into the future parts editions. Many people in the community were involved in the second edition and helped make it more streamlined and easier to navigate.
Q: [Inset Question Here] is in the survey, but it isn’t as important as asking about [Inset Question Here].
A: If we put in every question we had, it would take a very long time to fill out. We made the 2017 survey 5 questionnaires and 124 questions; in 2019 its going to be only 1 questionnaire and 56 questions.
To keep these surveys at a reasonable size, we are have broken up major topics to be spread through future survey versions. The order of questions does NOT mean something in more important.
Question for Title Holders, past & current. What’s the best advice you have for someone who is considering running for a Title?Pup Aries
MR Says: I’m none just a #sashWife but be yourself and stay true to yourself.
ATP Says: Go into the experience looking to learn and grow. And while your doing it stay your self. Don’t change to try and fit a “look” you get further being true and honest.
BD Says: For who is CONSIDERING it? Well, the best thing someone did for me is repeatedly ask “With all that you’re doing already, what will having a title enable you to do that you can’t do now?” And be able to answer that in a way that feels authentic to you (and not just an excuse). If you don’t need the title, then don’t crowd the space. But if you actually CAN get something out of it, this exercise helps to keep expectations and goals a little more concrete and attainable. And the sash isn’t magic and it comes at a cost. It will NOT make you popular and liked, it won’t help your relationships, and no one ever turns a profit from it. Having a title is an opportunity and a catalyst. I’ve seen challenges crush some, and allow others to flourish, but I don’t think I’ve seen anyone who is fully the same after the experience as they were at the beginning of it. The best lesson one can learn from it is that you never needed the title to do anything…but sometimes you need the experience to really understand that.
EK Says: From the outside i would say “do your thang and ignore the haters. Lots of people have critiques and opinions.
GB Says: Have fun with the process. When you aren’t having fun take a break and come back later
TL Says: Don’t burn yourself out. You have a whole year to explore and do so much. Don’t feel you have to cram everything in right away. Will PM later with more insight. Enjoy the experience, make new relationships and connections, and be yourself. Never lose sight of that.
AQ Says: What message/platform are you trying to share with the masses? Also, as BD said “. . .what will having a title enable you to do that you can’t do now?” Regardless of whatever you decided have fun and enjoy yourself.
BAG Says: Remain humble throughout the process and have a fucking ball!!! You’re showing the judges and the audience who you are/how you embody the title you’re running for. My other big piece of advice is NEVER let anyone tell you, you can’t do it! Even yourself
RS Says: It’s a learning experience. It’s going to be a marathon. Have people to support you and push you through it. Play to your strengths. Be you 100%. Don’t give them what you think they want. At the end of the day you want to show the judges who you are. And have all the sex before and after the contest. Because during it, you may only have time to sleep and poop.
SS Says: Don’t, unless you’re really fucking clear on your perspective, your self-esteem, and your expectations.
ST Says: Have fun. BE YOURSELF!
IA Says: Really think about why you want it, can you handle everything that comes with it, and which title is actually appropriate for you.
TD Says: Have a good message you want to voice with the title you want to earn. Br yourself, listen and learn as you go. Be humble, have fun, shoe your personality and enjoy the experience
MP Says: Consider the time and money you will invest. Also, realize that it is a service position. A way to lead but also give back
KMO Says: Really really know that you want to. Everything else will fall into place.
DD Says: Titles do not fix you, they do not cover up the bad or make problems magically disappear. They amplify every thing that is already there the good and the bad. My lessons learned and advice to future title holders is to make sure all those things are known talked about and are in check or they will eat you alive.
MHJ Says: The best advice I could give is to run with your heart, your beliefs, and your
Steven Wolfvien Archer If it is in your heart go for it and going 100 % for it .
IM Says: Just give it your all and don’t allow doubt to enter your mind
TSJ Says: Make sure you have a support system to keep you motivated and sane for the title year. Line up your team to be a success. Ask for help and have a plan.
JD Says: Be yourself!
DRS Says: Be you, not what you think someone else wants from you. Do what you think is right. Be passionate. Most importantly, have fun!
JS Says: decide why you’re running and remind yourself of that every single day. Have fun. if it stops being fun, you’re doing it wrong. also, you can’t please everyone so don’t try….
DP Says: Relax, have fun , don’t stress just go with the flow an have lots of fun,
KS Says: Be true to yourself and have fun and don’t think about winning too hard it’s not the title that makes you it’s you that makes the title
XT Says: Have a platform or plan for the year, become part of your community and actually know it, and if you win, have fun and enjoy the adventure, it’s a great experience and you can help a lot of people if you make it about community and not yourself.
JVM Says: Know your limits. That it’s okay to put your work as a titleholder on the backburner while you maintain other priorities such as self care and your daily responsibilities like work or school. Also don’t let your title define you. Don’t lose yourself. Many titleholders fall victim to this. They let the pagentry and fame consume them and they lose focus on who they are and what they stand for. So remeber to stay present, grounded, and mindful of who you really are.
Let’s start a discussion. We have all run into these. What makes a toxic alpha/handler/dom? (This is personality not hiv) Do you think their is resolution to this problem or do you think it’s a walk away scenario. Please give your input. No one is wrong here.
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PWF Says: Someone that refuses hard boundaries. Someone that wants to isolate you from friends and family.
SM Says: Someone who forces you to do something against the rules of the scene; does not ask for check ins during scenes; and doesn’t respect your wants or needs.
EH Says: For some they will never learn. Some were taught wrong and that’s when we step in to teach them corrective measures. And then some just don’t care. I think another way to help this is to teach other pups what to look out for and how to protect them
SD Says: Someone that is more concerned with their own needs than yours. Who tries to make you into something that you don’t want to be. A good Dom/Handler/Alpha’s responsibility is to guide a pup into becoming the person and pup they strive to be. It all comes down to one thing – respect. If you’re not getting that, then walk away.
BU Says: Somebody who cannot listen and adapt to their submissives needs. Someone who thinks that their way is always right, and that it’s the only way. Someone who constantly corrects submissives without good reason. Someone who doesn’t want to communicate
PH Says: Someone that is not willing to put the time and effort into getting to know each other. This goes for pups too. Rushing into a relationship just so you can say you have a pup, handler, Sir, boy, etc or a collar is just not worth it.
DB Says: I think a toxic alpha/handler is someone who “collects” pups and is unable to put in the time and effort to develop the relationship. It seems like they are doing it more for status than actually caring for our building the individual relationships.
MC Says: I would agree and add that, for me, that is a Back Away Slowly kind of situation.
Comment Below to share your opinions on this topic!
Most every state with a major lgbt, kink, or alt lifestyle community has a PAH. Everyone except for the state of virginia that all ends this year. Its official the launch of the SVA-PAH has happened.
We are very proud to announce that the state of virginia has joined the community of states with an organized PAH group. The SVA-PAH typically will be doing their events every 1st saturday if the month at MJs Tavern in norfolk virginia. We have already hosted 2 moshes and have our next one schedrule for feburary 1st call Puppy Love Night. We are excited to partner with already established local organizations to foster and create a safe play space for our pups and in doing so also create a stronger more united communy.
If youd like to keep up with the lastest that the SVA-PAH is doing i would recommend that for now you follow me Pup Ramsey on social media as i am the treasurer and advertising graphic designer. So i always post the lastest news on our events at least for now until we create a svapah facebook page.
I hope this post reaches you pups out there in the DMV area who thought you were alone and i hope to see you out at our next mosh!
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Something I get asked often is how can I communicate with my Handler/puppy while texting. While the possibilities are endless, I have compiled a list to help. Commonly *asterisk* are used to denote they are actions.
Belly Rubs/rolls over for belly rubs
Chases (Ball, Sir, Car)
Cuddles/Cuddles next to
Ducks (from swats)
Lays at feet
Pounces (on Sir, ball, treat)
Ruffles Head Fur
Snuzzle (a snuzzle is a nuzzle with a muzzle)
Thumps foot/paw/hind leg
We Aren’t Going Anywhere!
The Internet post SESTA-FOSTA legislation is going to be a major upheaval for many people in the community and we want to share with you our plans and strategy for moving forward.
SESTA-FOSTA is U.S Legislation, we aren’t U.S based: Websites hosted outside of the states have other protections, the U.S do not own the internet, they can shut down sites within their borders and luckily the main source of code for pupplay.info is overseas, the worst the U.S government can do is shut down our cloud-caching services that speed it up for different regions, so worst that can happen is the site gets a little slower for U.S users but so far that is unlikely.
Social Media is going through a Paradigm Shift, We Aren’t Panicking: While yes, we totally agree whats happening is unfair and if we had a fair say, id say reinstate the full powers of Article 230. But complaining wont help anyone. We are still planning to continue to promote our resources on social media, our content already has zero explicit sexual content so our Tumblr blog will survive, we may have to change how we use Facebook if they continue on their sex warpath, and probably will have more focus on sites like Fetlife and Twitter but the website itself will continue to be our main focus. Social media is only a tool and no service online is meant to last forever, times change and so must we if we want to stay relevant.
If we have to shut down any of our social media profiles, we will let you know but so far, we aren’t
Were still going to be around, were still going to make content and resources for the pup play community!
There is so much I want to tell you all. Its been a helluv’a intense and life-changing year for myself personally and sadly has impacted on a lot of projects, while I’ve been able to get the community history archives onto its own independent website and an interface overhaul on the website, this is still a lot I have planned.
There are some things I am wanting to get on PupPlay.Info in 2019.
- More Journalism – Lets showcase and highlight the great events and work that’s done in our community! This isn’t about one person or one project, this community is about all of us and I’m hoping to have this site to reflect that diversity and positivity in the community.
- A Larger Gear Library – More artisan gear from across the world, levelling the marketing playing field to find what is out there to help you express yourself more of how you want to.
- Larger 18+ Fetish Resources – While we started this earlier in the year I am hoping to have more published in 2019. Pups and Handlers are all on a spectrum of sexual and social and while we have focused more in the past on social pup play, I hope to have more educational resources on fetishes that pups and handlers participate in. I have amassed a lot of recipes of lube, to safety skills in certain fetishes to different ways to get a good shine on your leather, looking forward to seeing them live next year!
- Community History Archives Expanded – While it’ll help speed up and optimise the pupplay.info website to have our archives in its own website, there is still much work to be done.
- Canis Major & Minor Published – I am still working hard on getting these two books finished, but its hard work to release a book, let alone two! I’ve done lots of groundwork with my co-author, have had volunteers to contribute to topics that they know more about than myself, to make it the most informative it can be.
I do apologise for not meeting yours and my expectations of what was planned for 2018 on here, but this doesn’t mean things are coming to an end. Issues on my health are winding down and being managed which gives me more time to return focus onto my community projects here.
Callout culture is annoying and getting old. Finding a moment when someone failed and holding them to that moment…
Amp Somers: 10 August 2017 · Callout culture is annoying and getting old. Finding a moment when someone failed and holding them to that moment forever, while entertaining, is just rude. We’ve all done things we aren’t proud of or said things we don’t stand behind any longer. Accountability is great. But allowing someone to change, apologise, grow and do better is even greater!